Updated: August 18, 2026
The moral cost of the housing market goes far beyond what a family pays each month for rent or a mortgage.
When people can no longer afford to live near their jobs, extended family, or parish, housing starts shaping family life, community, work, and even how easily Catholics can participate in the life of the Church.
In this episode of The Catholic Money Show, Amanda and Jonathan respond to a recent National Catholic Register article exploring America’s housing shortage as a moral crisis. They look at why buying a home has become so difficult for many families, what Catholic teaching brings to the conversation, and what you can actually do if the math simply is not working.
Housing Is Affecting More Than Our Wallets
Amanda and Jonathan regularly hear from young couples who want to buy a home but cannot find a financially responsible way to make it happen.
Some would have to move far outside the area where they want to live. Others could technically qualify for a mortgage, but the payment would consume so much of their take-home pay that they would be dangerously overextended.
That creates a much bigger problem than missing out on homeownership.
Living farther from work can mean hours lost to commuting instead of being home with your spouse and children. Living farther from extended family can make it harder to share ordinary life, receive help, or gather regularly. And when affordable housing pushes families farther from their parish, participating in daily Mass, parish events, ministries, friendships, and community life becomes more difficult too.
Amanda and Jonathan have seen the opposite in their own family. When they moved to Nebraska, being within walking distance of a Catholic parish was one of their priorities. That proximity eventually made the parish a natural part of their everyday family life.
Where you live shapes more than your commute.
The Moral Cost of the Housing Market
The episode brings Catholic teaching directly into the housing conversation.
Amanda and Jonathan reference Amoris Laetitia and its recognition that families have a right to decent housing suited to family life. They also discuss the Church’s teaching on private property and the common good, along with the importance Catholic teaching places on creating conditions that support family life.
That does not mean the Church gives families a required square footage, neighborhood, or number of bedrooms.
A large family living in a city may discern that a small apartment makes sense because of work, parish, and community. Another family may choose a larger home in a lower-cost area.
The important question is whether housing allows a family to live its vocation well.
When the market makes that increasingly difficult, housing becomes more than an individual budgeting problem.
Why Buying a Home Has Become So Difficult
Amanda and Jonathan discuss several forces contributing to the current situation.
They point to high construction costs and building regulations that can make it harder to increase housing supply. Developers may also have stronger financial incentives to build more expensive homes rather than the smaller starter homes many first-time buyers need.
Private equity ownership is another concern. In some markets, investment firms have purchased significant numbers of single-family homes and turned them into rentals, reducing the number available to individual buyers.
There are cultural pressures too.
Amanda and Jonathan describe what they call expectation inflation. Millennials may have compared their first home to the established home their parents owned after decades of working and earning. Younger buyers now have social media added to that comparison.
A perfectly styled home owned by a twenty-something creator can quietly become the standard.
Suddenly, an older house with dated carpet, honey-oak cabinets, or an awkward layout feels unacceptable even when it might otherwise be a reasonable first home.
The market is genuinely difficult. Our expectations can still make navigating it harder.
Catholic Employers Are Part of This Conversation
Amanda and Jonathan also turn the conversation toward wages, particularly within Catholic institutions.
Amanda shares the example of a Catholic school teacher earning approximately $32,000 a year who was relying on a credit card to cover ordinary living expenses.
If Catholic parishes, schools, dioceses, and ministries want faithful and talented people serving the Church, compensation cannot be treated as an unrelated issue.
People need to be able to provide for the families under their care.
Amanda and Jonathan also acknowledge that this responsibility extends beyond administrators. Catholic institutions need adequate resources to pay employees well, which means generosity from people in the pews matters too.
What Can You Do If Buying Feels Impossible?
You cannot personally fix the entire housing market.
You can, however, make sure your own decision is rooted in good stewardship.
Build your financial foundation first
In the WalletWin Money Milestones, homeownership comes after several earlier financial foundations.
Amanda and Jonathan recommend having a working budget, appropriate insurance, emergency savings, consumer debt paid off, and greater stability in your monthly finances before buying.
A house will eventually need repairs. Furnaces fail. Roofs need replacing.
Buying before your finances can absorb those realities can turn homeownership into another source of chaos.
Reconsider what your first home needs to look like
A financially responsible home may be smaller than you imagined.
The kids may share bedrooms. The layout might be unfashionable. The kitchen may need updating someday.
Those details matter far less than the life you build inside the home.
As Jonathan points out, when people become emotional about leaving a house, they usually are not mourning the living room. They are remembering the life that happened there.
Decide which priorities actually matter most
Maybe being near grandparents matters more than square footage.
For some, a short commute matters most.
Or you want to remain close enough to your parish that attending events or daily Mass does not require a major production.
You probably will not get every preference at once, so deciding which ones carry the greatest weight can make the house hunt much clearer.
Consider multigenerational living
Living with parents or extended family does not automatically represent a failure to launch.
For the right family, it may provide lower housing costs, childcare support, deeper family relationships, and more time to prepare financially for a future purchase.
Amanda and Jonathan are also clear that it will not work for every family dynamic. It is simply one strategy worth considering rather than dismissing because of cultural expectations.
Remember that renting can be prudent
Renting is not inherently wasting money.
If you have recently moved, changed jobs, or are not sure you will stay in an area long-term, buying can create its own expensive problems.
The early years of a mortgage are heavily weighted toward interest, and selling a home brings transaction costs. If you need to move again quickly, renting may have been the wiser financial choice.
A few additional years of renting can also give you time to save a larger down payment, eliminate debt, increase income, and better understand where your family wants to put down roots.
Income Is Part of the Equation Too
If housing prices are one side of the equation, income is the other.
Amanda and Jonathan encourage listeners not to treat current income as permanently fixed.
A raise, new employer, different field, side income, or period of retraining may change what becomes possible over the next few years.
That does not necessarily mean chasing the highest possible salary. It means asking whether your current work and compensation support the family life you are trying to build.
Bring the Decision to Prayer
Amanda and Jonathan close by bringing the conversation back to discernment.
Housing decisions involve money, but they also involve your family, work, parish, relationships, and future plans. Those are good reasons to bring the entire decision to God rather than treating a mortgage calculator as the final authority.
Ask for the wisdom to see your priorities clearly, recognize which sacrifices are prudent, and distinguish genuine needs from expectations that may need to change.
The answer may be to buy now. It may be to rent longer, choose a smaller home, increase your income, or explore a living arrangement you had not previously considered.
There Is Still a Path Forward
The moral cost of the housing market is real, and families facing today’s prices are not imagining how much harder the process has become.
At the same time, homeownership at any cost is not the goal.
Good stewardship means building your financial foundation first and then making a housing decision that supports your family’s vocation rather than undermining it.
You may have to adjust the timeline or change some of the details, but there can still be a path forward.
Amanda and Jonathan teach their full 12 Money Milestones inside Catholic Money Academy, including the steps that prepare you financially for homeownership.
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